Nice guy is a term in Internet discourse describing an adult or teenage male with a fixation on seducing women by being nice to them, most steotypically by providing her with emotional support when she is having difficulties with another male partner.
There are, broadly, three schools of thought about Nice Guys™:
- that they are are victims of women’s irrationality or cruelty, in saying that they want “nice guys” but in fact preferring to have relationships with “jerks” or “alpha [alpha males]”
- that they are misguided and need to learn or be taught to be alphas or seducers, see Pick Up Artists
- that the Nice Guy strategy of “doing things for someone so that she will have sex with me, because women do or should reward niceness with sex” is a sexist construction, of which more below
The terms Nice Guy™ and nice guy syndrome are used to describe men who view themselves as prototypical “nice guys,” but whose “nice deeds” are in reality only motivated by attempts to passively please women into a relationship and/or sex.
This is something a friend of mine sent to me the other day in response to my frustration at a friends “nice guy” claim and post.
#3 all the way.